In response to many questions, and lots of experience, we offer these thoughts on how to approach the death of a loved one. The Catholic funeral rite is divided into several parts, each with its own purpose. For this reason, we recommend following the complete structure and making use of each part.
Part I Vigil Service (Wake)
“At the vigil, the Christian community keeps watch with the family in prayer to the God of mercy and finds strength in Christ’s presence” (Order of Christian Funerals) The Vigil Service usually takes place during the period of visitation and viewing at the funeral home. It is a time to remember the life of the deceased and to commend him/her to God. In prayer we ask God to console us in our grief and give us strength to support one another. One of the priests or deacons will conduct the service.
Part II Funeral Liturgy
The Mass of Christian Burial is the central liturgical celebration of the Catholic Community for the deceased. The Church encourages this to be a Mass at church, a funeral liturgy outside of Mass can be celebrated at the funeral home. The funeral liturgy is an act of worship, not merely an expression of grief. At our parish, a tasteful brief eulogy is permitted, with a family member offering reflections on the life of their loved one.
Part III Rite of Committal
(Burial or Internment)
The Rite of Committal is the final act of the community of faith in caring for the remains of the deceased member. It is normally celebrated at the grave or the place of internment. In committing the body to its resting place, the community expresses the hope that the deceased awaits the glory of the resurrection, as we all do. While cremation is allowed, it is important that the remains of the deceased are kept together and buried together, it is not appropriate to have the remains (ashes) divided among family members or scattered elsewhere.